The first step to building that cushion sounds easy but often is more difficult than it seems. Spend less than you earn.
Well that's not hard, you say. But how many of you are actually doing it? Very few, if the truth were known. I make really good money and I still have problems with it sometimes. We all want nice things. And nice things cost money. (And yes...I got a really good deal on the brand new Jeep Gladiator you saw on Facebook so I am still within my budget).
My daughter reminded me the other day that I used to have quite the spending problem. Growing up poor meant I did not have many of the things other kids had. And I vowed my kids would never go without the things they wanted. And what was wrong with buying a few nice things for my husband or my parents? My problem was never buying for myself. But I would spend on others with no thought at all about the expense or if this was a necessary purchase. It wasn't until I discovered a Christmas present from the previous year sitting in my grandson's closet, still unopened, that I realized I was overdoing it. And all that spending soon created huge credit card debt to the point that I found myself unable to pay my bills on time. When I broke my glasses and couldn't afford a new pair because I had maxed out my cards and had no savings, I knew I had to make a change.
Here's how I did it:
1. I am naturally competitive so my first step was to set a goal of how much I would save each week. The challenge of reaching that goal was often enough to keep me from reaching into my wallet. Once I discovered how much fun challenging myself could be, I used it in other ways. How much could I reduce my grocery bill? Could I get a great bargain on any new purchase? Could I find cheaper, better ways to live my life? It became a game. And the prize was an ever increasing amount of money in my bank account.
2. I enlisted my family. The rule was I could not spend anything above a certain dollar amount without discussing it with my family first. Household purchases were discussed with my husband. Purchases for the grandkids were discussed with their parents. For my kids, I talked to their spouses. The discussions were designed to help me understand whether this was a worthwhile purchase. It wasn't based on price. Heck, we bought the grandson his first car. But it was based on NEED and VALUE. Needs were always approved. WANTS were approved if it fit within our budget and provided value. And on the rare occasion I did want to purchase something for myself, I soon developed the habit of walking around the store with the desired item in my cart while I questioned myself as to whether I really needed it. Most times, I would talk myself out of whatever item had caught my eye before I headed to the checkout.
3. Speaking of NEEDS vs WANTS, I learned to differentiate between the two. When my husband saw what I was doing and decided to join me, we took a good look at where "our" money went. And discovered many things we were paying for that we could live without. Cable TV? Gone! Weekly dinners out? Gone! Subscriptions and memberships we didn't use regularly? Gone! Gourmet coffee and "artisan" foods? Gone! And the great thing is - we don't even miss any of this stuff!
4. I learned my triggers. I don't have many vices. But I do have a couple. Books. Music. Jewelry. Shoes. My husband took a pictures of the stacks (yes, plural) of books that hadn't been read, the mountain of CDs that had not yet been opened, and the tangled mess of jewelry I had never worn and presented them to me one day. And how many pairs of shoes does one woman need? So I set rules in place to help me compensate. I can't buy a book until I finish the one I just purchased. I can't buy a CD until I listen to the one I just bought. When I am shopping, I no longer use a cart. It's amazing how fast you will talk yourself out of something once you get tired of carrying it around the store while you shop! If shopping online, once I load everything into my online cart, I leave the website until the next day. Often by then, I will discover I didn't want the items nearly as badly as I thought I did.
5. Here's the big one. I cut up most of my credit cards. I do have a couple that I use for travel or if I just don't have the cash I need on me at the time. I think this was the hardest for me, but it was so beneficial. You can't spend what you don't have! Well, actually with credit, you can. And that's a bad thing. So the rule is if I can't pay cash now or know that I can pay off the credit card debt in 90 days or less, I don't make the purchase.
Spending less than you make is physically quite easy. It's mentally and emotionally hard! Buying things makes us feel good. One of the rules of marketing I learned was that people buy based on emotion and then use logic to justify their purchase. The trick is to find other ways of creating that emotional rush without spending money. Reaching my next savings goal feels gives me warm fuzzies. Knowing I negotiated major savings on a large purchase feels GREAT! Knowing that when we truly need or want something, we can just write the check is priceless.
Try these ideas for yourself. Start saving for the things that are truly important in life and stop wasting money on things that provide no lasting benefit.
If you have some tips on how to spend less than you make, share them here! We can always use some new ideas!
